OBVIOUS SIGNS HE WANTS A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU

 10 signs he wants something serious with you

When you start dating someone new, there is one very important question, besides “Is he The One?”. And that is whether or not the man you are dating is looking for the same thing as you – a long-term relationship.

Because the last thing you want to do is to get emotionally attached to someone who doesn’t see a future together.

But if you are anything like I used to be then you might be afraid to ask him straight up. And I get it, trust me. You don’t want to look needy or push him away.

So, instead, you have come to this blog to find out about the different signs he wants a serious relationship with you.

No worries, I got you. In this article, I share some of the undeniable signs a man will give off that show that he desires to be in an exclusive relationship.

10 Obvious signs he wants a serious relationship with you

1. He pursues you

Before I get to this point, I want to mention that I strongly believe there is nothing wrong with a woman reciprocating interest in a man by calling or texting him first from time to time. 

However, I believe that a woman should never be the only one that initiates all the contact. Especially, when you first start interacting on dating apps or before the first date.

When a man is truly interested in being with you, he will show you. You won’t ask yourself: “Does he want to be with me?”, because he will pursue you hard.

You won’t have to constantly wonder where he is or what your relationship status is because his actions align with his words.

Instead, with the right guy, you will feel that you have his attention because he checks in on you on a daily basis and is eager to keep the communication going. 

2. He is consistent

A strong sign that he wants to be your boyfriend is that he is consistent.

Thankfully, this point can be observed very early on in the dating phase. Is he consistent in his communication and availability? Or does he sporadically send you the last-minute “hey what’s up” text on a Friday night? 

A man that is serious about getting into a real relationship with you, wants to make a good impression and wants to find out as much about you as possible.

He will use every opportunity to talk to you. You will receive a text message from him during his lunch break or a phone call when he is on his way home from work.

In addition, he will make time to meet up in person consistently to forge a strong relationship. There won’t be long periods of time where he is MIA and you are wondering if something is wrong, instead you will feel like he is truly invested. 

Because if he sees you as a potential partner he desires to be close to you.

3. He progresses the relationship

We all know what it is like to be in a situation where it feels like time is standing still and after 3 or even 6 months of dating you are still not official. 

That is usually the case with a man that does not want to commit and avoids the topic altogether. However, when you meet a man that knows exactly what he wants and doesn’t fear going after it.

Therefore, one of the biggest signs that a man is looking for a long-term partner is that he will be intentional. He will gradually increase the amount of time he spends with you and looks for opportunities to increase his involvement in your life.

Instead of just going on evening dates once a week he will want to see you more frequently and for longer periods of time and in different settings. He will move from dating to courting quickly.

4. He respects your boundaries

Boundaries are the best way to figure out a man’s intentions for you and discover whether he is ready to commit or not. 

Whether you have boundaries around physical intimacy, how much time you spend together, or when you introduce each other to your inner circle.

If the guy that you are seeing respects your boundaries, then it means that he is truly interested in you and wants to see if the relationship can get to the next level. 

Because a man who wants to remain in your life for a long time doesn’t mind meeting your requirements. He understands that they are in place for a good reason.

However, if he is the kind of guy that keeps pushing you or even complaining about them, then that’s a sure sign that he is not the right person for you.

5. He opens up to you

This point might just be the most important one. Because it is actually a psychological sign that someone likes you. 

Men know that being in a relationship means that the woman they are with will be all up in their business. The good, the bad, and the ugly. 

Therefore, a man who is not ready for a serious relationship will be emotionally unavailable and avoid sharing vulnerable information. Oftentimes, he will fear being hurt or rejected and therefore give you superficial answers whenever you try to connect on a deeper level emotionally.

But a man that wants a committed relationship will want to be intimate by sharing more of himself.

He will share the things he loves, fears, and desires with you because he wants you to be a part of his world. That is a big deal! It signifies that he is ready for a new level of intimacy and developing an emotional soul tie with you.

6. He makes (future) plans

Another positive sign he wants a serious relationship with you is that he will make future plans. 

A man that wants to make you his girlfriend, will book himself into your calendar. He will make sure that he gets to see you throughout the week. 

And he will do so ahead of time because he doesn’t want to risk losing you to someone else.

He will invite you to his favorite activities or existing plans with his friends. He will find free time and allocate it to you early.

So, don’t be fooled. If he never puts you first or isn’t intentional about spending time with you and, it might be because he does not see you as girlfriend material.

7. The relationship is peaceful

Point number seven is one of the key signs to identify a man’s readiness for a relationship. 

Ask yourself if the relationship is peaceful and flowing easily? Or if the relationship is marked by drama and feels like you are pulling teeth. 

Little things like this, show you whether or not he may be sabotaging the relationship subconsciously because he doesn’t really want to be in a relationship.

While a guy that wants to make you his girlfriend will do his best to put in the effort and overcome challenges. A man that isn’t a good love interest will eventually fall off.

With a good guy, you have no awkward gaps in your courting phase where you are wondering whether you are on the same page.

But instead, you can feel and see that he is truly interested in you. His words and his actions align, and you feel in your gut that he is a good choice. Peace is the number one way how you know something is good for you. 

So, if you feel peace in your heart about the man you are seeing, then he might just be the one for you.

8. He brings up the tough conversations

As I mentioned in the beginning, you can’t run away from uncomfortable conversations forever. Sooner or later you will have to bring up topics like commitment, talk about marriage, and dive deep into your finances. 

An obvious sign that a man wants a committed relationship is that he will be the one to bring up those tough topics. 

Instead of allowing any misunderstandings to lead to arguments and resentment, he will encourage heart-to-heart conversations. Because he wants to know as well if you are ready for the next step and even compatible.

A man who is ready to be in a relationship understands that challenges are part of it and is not afraid to tackle them.

9. He is affectionate toward you

Another very easy way to find out if he wants a serious relationship is that your guy will seek to be close to you. 

From public displays of affection to taking cute pictures, to spending romantic evenings together. All he wants is to be around you and affectionate. His body language is open and inviting and you feel desired by him.

And when you are not together, you don’t have to send a sneaky to make him miss you, because he already does.

Contrary to common belief, men enjoy companionship and affection just as much as women do. And they show it openly when they meet the woman they want to be with.

So, if he can’t get enough of you, there’s a good chance he wants you to be his girlfriend soon.

10. He makes you part of his life

Last, but certainly not least, a great sign he wants a serious relationship with you, is that the guy you are dating makes you part of his life. Meaning you are part of his routine.

Maybe he calls you every day when he is on his way home or invites you to join him on his weekly workout at the park. Or he starts to introduce you to the important people in his life like his best friends or his co-workers.

Baby steps towards a life together. Because the difference between casual dating and a committed relationship is that you share your lives with each other.

So, if he is already doing that, it’s a very important sign he is ready for a committed and healthy relationship.